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Effective Juggling  is an art

30/5/2016

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Have you seen the smiling clowns juggling away at the circus? I think, the majority of us juggle so many tasks a day, that we too are jugglers in our own circus arena. One major difference I would see between us who juggle many demands of life and the clowns who juggle away at the circus is the SMILE! or the lack of it in our faces.

It is true that flitting between jobs, managing jobs,  running a business, struggling with finances, parenting duties, cook’s role, taxi driver’s role, a loving wife or husband can be quite tiring. Same applies if you are a student, a part-time worker, an interesting girl- or boyfriend and a committed family member.  This tends to alter our moods and the stress of juggling shows up in our face all the time. A constant frown, forgetting to smile, bitten lips and grimaced expressions are worsened with some cursing under the breath and an occasional snapping at those around us, on purely unreasonable grounds. 

Have you ever seen the clowns who juggle away hours at times giving a sour face? Usually, they are there with their big grins, pasted right across their faces. Ok, I know that is just the painted smile. But would it not add to our own pride, if we do all the juggling in life and still manage to stay cool and smile?

This is where the secret to balance comes to into play. Here are a few things I have learnt while juggling many roles as a mother, a business woman, a teacher, a housewife (or domestic systems manager as a dear friend calls it), a school principal, a spiritual advisor, a business consultant, a taxi driver (for my family) a loving daughter, a good companion, a community worker, a great friend and everything else surrounding my life!

You must plan your juggling well! It is a synchronized process and there is order in the chaos. If you learn to find that order and the ability to instill some systematic process into the disoriented, unruly schedules, you are bound to get the majority of it done, and be quite cool and calm while you go about it.

A must have in a busy juggler’s life is 'a things to do' note book. It can be on your mobile device, your I-Pad or in a simple small pocket note book. Write down the things to do for the day and the things in the week and if you can plan the scheduled tasks for the months ahead, you will be in control at least 50%  of your juggling tasks.

Other things might pop out of nowhere but just knowing the monthly work schedule, you have already attended to many ahead of time.  This might be as simple as using one single trip to a particular place to do several things or buying things for the whole month that can be stored without perishing. Remember, juggling is all about managing your time and resources effectively. You will juggle your time, your strength and stamina, your emotions and your money.  The better you get at the task, the more orderly your life will become because you will become a master of managing chaos.

For the clown who juggles with synchronized coordination for many years, the juggling is a natural act, as easy as breathing. Their hands will do the job even if they close their eyes and maybe, even if you don’t paint that smile on their face with bright paint, you may find them smiling while they juggle with so much ease.

So what might you take away from all this? Learn to juggle efficiently and effectively by planning and coordinating your moves. This will let you keep your calm and put a natural smile on your face!
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How Well Do You Maintain Balance?

25/5/2016

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So many women I talk to lead busy lives with their families and careers. Are you one of them? I certainly am.  You sometimes wish that you could clone yourself in the struggle to juggle everything on a daily basis.. Ever feel like you’re chasing your tail trying to focus on the perfect balance?  If trying to maintain balance in your life makes you feel like a tightrope walker, you’re not alone. Most of us have so many demands on our time and energy, life can feel like a three-ring circus. Some are good at delegating those dreaded time sucking tasks by outsourcing, whilst others may just want to tweak something in their life. 
Take this quiz to see how well you are meeting responsibilities, while also recognising and fulfilling personal needs and wants. Don’t put off doing it until later - you might never get around to it. It will only take a couple of minutes. Besides, it will give you a much-needed break whilst reflecting on the answers. Of course, endeavour to be as honest with yourself as possible.

True/False.
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  1. The only way I can successfully manage my life is to take care of myself physically and emotionally. 
❍   ❍  2. Nurturing myself increases my capacity to help others.
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  3. I eat healthfully and exercise regularly. 
❍   ❍  4. I get regular health check-ups, go to the dentist, and take preventative precautions.
❍   ❍  5. I set aside personal, quiet time for myself, like meditating or simply letting my thoughts drift.  
❍   ❍  6. I experience the gifts of each season: ice skating, beach walks; gardening, hiking, more time outside; camping, swimming, barbeques, gathering wood, spending more time inside.
❍   ❍  7. Creativity nurtures me, too. I do what I love, whether that’s cooking, drawing, painting, writing, dancing, singing or another creative pursuit.  
❍   ❍  8. Reaching out to others enriches my life. I spend quality time with family and friends. 
❍   ❍  9. Contributing to the world provides connection and purpose, so I give my time, energy and experience where it is most useful.  
❍   ❍  10. I notice and heed the emotional signals that tell me I’m out of balance: signs like irritability, overwhelm, resentment. 
❍   ❍  11. If I feel that I’m catching a cold, I realise I may have stressed my immune system with overactivity, so I stop and take care of myself. 
❍   ❍  12. When I need or want to, I say ‘no’ to requests for my time.
❍   ❍  13. I listen to and honour the requests my body makes for such things as a nap, a walk, green vegetables, hot soup. 
❍   ❍  14. If I have something planned for myself, I don’t just toss that aside when someone makes a request of me. 
❍   ❍  15. I’m busy, but I find time to do the things I want to do.
❍   ❍  16. I’m happy. I regularly experience well-being, contentment, even joy.
If you answered 'false' more often than 'true', you may want to take a look at the questions to which you answered false and see if you can incorporate something of its message into your life. I’d love to know how you fared with this quiz! Please feel free to connect with me if you’d like to explore this issue further. 
Have you tried doing the quiz on someone else. Who do you know that would benefit from doing the quiz? 

Much love,
Ruth C-S


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To go with the Flow or Not.

11/5/2016

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If you are an Aussie Football fan, you would have thought here’s a Swans supporter speaking up! Sorry to disappoint you - I used to be a Carlton fan many years ago but now only support Aussie Rules from afar. Go Swans! because this week I had the pleasure of watching swans and pelicans on the water where I go for my regular walks. I am always fascinated when I see them on the water. On these occasions though, what got me thinking was how elegant they look always. Have you ever noticed that? When I saw them this time, the weather was very stormy and (yes, I braved it!) the water was rather choppy with winds blowing at high knots.
​I sat and watched the pelicans in this picture for several minutes. What amazed me was that despite the choppy water and the wind, they appeared calm and drifted in whichever direction the wind and water took them. Plus they stuck together for a while at least. As I do at such times, I pondered over this.They appeared calm but I wondered what their little feet were doing just under the surface of the waves. At times they drifted with the flow of the water (mostly) but at times they actually managed to swim against the stream - upstream - and still all the while maintained absolute stunning composure! Were they madly paddling to swim against the flow of the tide? Can you imagine that?

Are the composure and mad paddling comparable to human life(style)? That might just be. There were times when I was and am struggling with various things in life. When I was going through a rough time in my relationship, I was paddling like mad to keep my head above water, to feel ok and carry on regardless of what I was going through. Hardly anyone would have guessed that I was going through so much adversity because I held an elegant pose to the outside world - I did not want anyone to know. When I stopped paddling like mad and embraced the turbulence, I drifted with the flow and it eventually led me to step out of that situation and take a new direction in my life.
Sometimes when we go through turbulence in our lives we must find ways to get over it. We must decide how we do it - and it is absolutely ok and almost essential to do a bit of both. If you decide to swim upstream (against the flow of events), facing adversity head on, that can have an advantage and disadvantage. If you have a certain goal to reach, you might face some adversity along the way.  When you face your fears, you will eventually get through that and see that it is not so bad after all. Going through all the misery and all the ‘getting out of your comfort zone’ gets you to the mastery point of attaining your goal. During that period it is also essential to stop a bit, pull back a bit and just drift - stop paddling like crazy. Embrace your fear and your misery - examine it, acknowledge it, thank it. Drift in the direction life takes you to see where you should be heading. Sometimes to get to your goal you might have to take a slight diversion - perhaps not the road you thought would be the most appropriate one. I believe that our journeys are cut out for us already - and we need to go through some STUFF to learn and experience things. It doesn’t always happen on the direct path and may be strewn with a couple of thorns along the way. 
So, the Animal Kingdom - the swans and the pelicans - can teach us a thing or two, can’t they. Swim upstream when you believe in something (they wanted to get to the pier) and do what you have to to get there. Or go with the flow when you need to let go and embrace your position in life. It will lead you to where you should really be heading (if the pier wasn’t the right destination at that point in time, the pelicans would have landed at another point but still would have reached land).

What experiences have you had with swimming upstream or just going with the flow. Would love to hear about them! Comment below to let me know what you think about it. 
Much Love,
​Ruth


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Is your net worth the same as your network?

1/5/2016

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​Work your net - of magic - when you network with others. Life is all about networking. I'd like to think that your network could correlate with your net worth. Why not start thinking of who you hang out with. Are they helping you move ahead in life - are they serving a purpose. Do they help you keep on track - do they support you in what you stand for, what you believe in? Or the other way round? Are you helping them? You become like those you spend the most time with. Have a think about where you'd like to be in your life in about 12 months / 2 years. Have a look at what your life looks like now. Adjust who you NETWORK with and those people will be a part of your steering committee.

Just last week at the Lunch & Learn I hosted, speaker Kerryn Powell, was talking about the benefits of networking and how to do it successfully. We do it in all areas of our lives - at home, at work, at social activities, in the shops. Networking is all about building relationships. It's about building and creating trust, it's about finding common ground and interest. It's about serving and helping others and perhaps receiving some help from that person some time down the track. It may not happen straight away that you receive that help but it will come. Network and build relationships lovingly and consistently without the thought that you want something specific from that person - come from a space of serving. 

Here are 7 quick insights on networking in your life and business:
1. It is about connections - you just don't know who knows who. 
2. It takes time for people to have the need to need you - they might not need you now but later they will.
3. It is about supporting each other and creating opportunities for each other to be supportive.
4. In a business sense, plan and prepare and be curious about the person you are building relationships with - be prepared to serve
5. Follow up and nurture those relationships - don't just be a ship passing in the night. Be lovingly consistent. 
6. Don't just make it about adding names and cards to your collection. Rather be selective.
7. Don't always think that person will or must end up as your client - he/she might just know the person who will become your client. Or you may be able to refer someone you know to that person. 

What do you think? How do you build and keep relationships? How are you building your net-worth? Would love it if you share your thoughts!

Love and blessings,
Ruth 
​Be happy in the process of .... 

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